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How to Build Routines for Toddlers and Preschoolers

Updated: May 26

Hey Mama!


In the wild world of toddlers and preschoolers, chaos can reign supreme. I get it – some days, finding that delicate balance between structure and flexibility can feel like attempting to solve a puzzle with ever-changing pieces.


But don't worry girl, Routines are your secret weapon in this parenting adventure!


Let me tell you why! Picture this: your kiddo's world is like a tiny circus, and routines are the safety net that stops everything from turning into a crazy, unpredictable acrobatic show. Having a consistent schedule gives them a sense of "I got this" in their little world, making them feel safe and secure and gives them a sense of predictability.


Think of routines as the backbone of your parenting game plan. They're the GPS that guides your tiny tots through the day, making things a bit less crazy and preventing meltdowns and tantrums for both of you. And guess what? It's not just about survival; it's about setting the stage for their future greatness.


Now, building routines for toddlers and preschoolers doesn't have to be as complicated as putting together IKEA furniture without instructions. It's more like cooking – a bit of trial, a sprinkle of error, and a dash of creativity.


Let's dive into some tips for building routines that not only survive the toddler tornado but also help your little ones thrive.



Consistency is Key: Imagine creating a stable foundation for your child's day, a roadmap through the chaos of toddlerhood. From the crack of dawn until bedtime, sticking to a consistent routine becomes your secret weapon. Whether it's the morning wake-up, meals, or the nightly tuck-in, a dependable schedule is your child's anchor in a sea of uncertainty. This reliability helps them feel secure and in control, a crucial comfort as they navigate the whirlwind of growing up.


Create a Visual Schedule: Toddlers and preschoolers might not fully grasp the concept of time, but they're expert visual learners. Introduce a simple visual schedule adorned with pictures or drawings, transforming the routine into a vibrant adventure. This visual roadmap becomes their compass, helping them understand the sequence of daily events. It's not just a schedule; it's a colorful guide through the day's journey. Check my step-by-step guide for creating a visual schedule! It also includes a video guide that my son and I made together, I hope you enjoy!


Visual Morning routine schedule


Morning Routine: Mornings with little ones can be chaotic, but establishing a positive and calm routine transforms the energy. Kickstart the day with activities like getting dressed, brushing teeth, and enjoying a delightful breakfast. The goal is to set a positive tone for the day, making mornings an anticipated adventure. This morning ritual not only jumpstarts their day but also fosters a sense of excitement and readiness for whatever comes their way.


Mealtime Routines: Designate specific times for meals and snacks, turning the dining experience into a cherished routine. Encourage healthy eating habits by involving your child in simple meal preparations. From washing veggies to setting the table, these activities make mealtimes not just a necessity but a fun and educational experience. The dining table becomes a stage for learning and bonding.


Playtime and Learning: Toddlers and preschoolers are masters of play, and incorporating it into their routine is a recipe for joy and growth. Mix in both indoor and outdoor play, featuring reading, arts and crafts, and imaginative play. These activities aren't just entertaining; they're the building blocks of learning and creativity. The routine becomes a canvas for exploration and discovery, nurturing their inquisitive minds.


Nap Time: Naptime can be a parent's golden hour, and establishing a consistent routine is key. Create a calming environment by dimming lights and using soft blankets. Reading a favorite book or singing a soothing lullaby signals to your little one that it's time to wind down. This routine not only aids in better sleep but also becomes a comforting ritual, making the transition from playtime to rest a smoother experience.

baby sleeping near an alarm clock

Transition Times: Toddlers and preschoolers aren't always thrilled about shifting gears. Give them a heads-up before transitioning from one activity to another. Using a simple, clear statement like, "In 5 minutes, it will be time to clean up and get ready for dinner," helps them mentally prepare for the change. This small act can prevent meltdowns and make transitions a more cooperative process.


Limit Screen Time: In our tech-driven world, setting specific times for screen use is crucial. Establishing clear limits helps prioritize hands-on activities and social interactions. This ensures that your child engages in a variety of experiences that contribute to their holistic development. Balancing screen time with other activities fosters healthier habits and a well-rounded routine.


Bedtime Routine: Creating a calming bedtime routine is the secret sauce to a peaceful night's sleep. Incorporate activities like reading a favorite story, taking a warm bath, or listening to soothing music. This routine signals to your child that it's time to wind down, making the transition to sleep more seamless. The consistency of this ritual not only promotes better sleep but also creates cherished moments of connection.


bedtime routine

Flexibility: While consistency is vital, life with toddlers and preschoolers can be unpredictable. Be open to flexibility when needed. Sometimes plans change, and that's okay. Being adaptable teaches your child that it's okay to adjust to new circumstances, fostering resilience and coping skills.


Encourage Independence: Allowing toddlers and preschoolers to participate in age-appropriate tasks nurtures a sense of independence and responsibility. Whether it's dressing themselves or helping with simple chores, these activities empower them and contribute to their growing confidence. Encouraging independence also fosters a positive attitude towards daily tasks.


Positive Reinforcement: Positive reinforcement goes a long way in encouraging adherence to routines. Praise or small rewards for completing tasks or following the routine reinforces positive behavior. Celebrate their achievements and efforts, creating a positive association with the established routines.


Communicate Clearly: When communicating about routines, use clear and simple language. Toddlers and preschoolers are still developing their language skills, so clear instructions help them understand expectations. Being straightforward minimizes confusion and empowers them to follow the routine more independently.


Model Behavior: Children are keen observers, learning by watching those around them. Model the behavior you want to see in your child, whether it's practicing good hygiene habits or maintaining a positive attitude toward daily tasks. Your actions serve as powerful examples that shape their own behaviors and habits.


Review and Adjust: Children grow and change rapidly, and so should their routines. Periodically review the established routine to see what's working and what needs adjustment. As their needs and interests evolve, tweaking the routine ensures it continues to meet their developmental milestones and keeps the daily rhythm harmonious. Regular reviews help you stay attuned to your child's changing world


Crafting routines for toddlers and preschoolers is more of an art than a science. It requires patience, flexibility, and a dash of creativity.


Remember, the goal is not perfection but progress!


As you navigate the daily whirlwind, keep adapting the routine to suit your child's evolving needs and interests. With a little trial and error, you'll find the rhythm that turns the chaos into a harmonious melody of growth and joy for both you and your little one. Good luck, Mama! You got this!



Ready to transform chaos into calm? Subscribe now and stay tuned for my next blog – it's all about a quick and fun DIY guide for creating a visual schedule! Let's turn routine-making into a breeze together! 🌟

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About Me

Hello, I'm Raissa Davis, a proud mom of two wonderful little boys. I started the "Give Yourself Grace Mama" community with the aim of bringing together mothers who, like me, are navigating the highs and lows of motherhood and parenting.

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